Stop Complaining.... Do Something About It!

One of my biggest pet peeves is people complaining... Complaining about their spouse... their kids, their weight, their work, their lack of work, and the list goes on..... I know I have been guilty of complaining on more than one of these topics.... okay let's me honest - I've complained on every single one of these topics... But I still can't stand to listen to it... even if it's coming out of my own mouth....

The world has become one big complaint..... No one sucks it up anymore.... Instead of complaining people - do something to better your circumstances... Sitting on your butt won't make it happen... Telling everyone how much your life sucks... doesn't do it either.... Take action... I have an Uncle - Uncle Kenny.. We were talking one day and his words of wisdom have stuck with me many years later.. This is what he said: "How are you feeling right now? Are you feeling good? Can you walk, talk, and move... then get out and do something that makes you happy... and if you can't be happy then make someone else happy... cuz you'll surprise on how good it feels to make someone else happy" We were talking about my cousin Mary V who was suffering from cancer and Uncle Kenny was trying to explain to her that she had to grab the good moments and make them count....

If your spouse and kids are driving you insane - find the cause and take care of it... talk about it.. be proactive... You might be surprised that - through communication and kindness you might find some happiness... Complaining just builds it up and makes it worse....

There are a lot of people without jobs right now and it is a very difficult time.... It is very easy to be sucked into the "feel sorry for me" mode.... It is very easy to give up.... But that is when you MUST be the most strong... Two years ago when my husband was laid off after 23 years with him company - he came home in a state of shock.... he did not know what to do with himself... in many ways he was looking to me for answers.... That is not the type of person my husband is.... After of week of letting him walk around the house in a daze.... I got in his face and told him to snap out of it.... We're a team - let's get you a job.... We were blessed - he found a job in less than 4 months... We were blessed - I believe because we were proactive - we helped to make it happen... God blesses us when we make efforts.. He doesn't want us sitting around complaining about the lack of a job... because we are taking away His Glory.... we are not showing our complete trust in Him...

So, Kelly's Ideas for the day - is get up and do something... If you need to lose weight - eat the right food today.. move your body today... Tomorrow start all over again.. If you need a job - call people you know, go to employment agencies, list yourself on job search engines, and make something happen... Stop complaining.... Breathe in ..... Breathe out.... and thank God for loving you and wanting to bless you in a Big way.....

Employment Advice

This September will be the two year anniversary of my husband being laid off after 23 years of excellent service. I remember the day so clearly... It was 9:50 in the morning - I heard the garage door open as I was heading out to a dentist appointment. I was thinking that Dusty (my husband) might have an appointment near the house and wanted to surprise me and say hi.... I walked to the door and asked him what's up.... His face was white (in shock) and he said "I'm so sorry - I was just fired" My first reaction was that he has got to be playing a joke... Dusty tends to do that... "No, I am serious" He said that the Regional VP called him into his office and fired him.... (we did not know at the time that ALL the VP of Sales like my husband were being fired across the nation.)
Dusty's company had been bought out my a Japanese company and they had too many Chiefs working.. The company was losing money... The loyalty for Dusty's previous company's employees were non-existent. What really got my goat is this: Dusty had won Regional Sales Manager of the Year eight months prior - He was promoted to VP of Sales and won the biggest contract in the history of the company for over 17 million dollars... The company had to cut costs and Dusty was a cost.... The sneaky and unethical thing the company did was try to fire Dusty for cause - some trumped up charge that was later proven false - The Regional VP was the guilty party... Dusty had to fight for his 23 years of service compensation package... It was not a contest - the company knew they were trying to pull a fast one to try and save money where they could... Thankfully, after contacting an attorney, the company admitted their bad judgment in so many words.. nothing in writing of course - but delivered his compensation quickly.. It's sad that the company was willing to lie and steal to save a few bucks... I wonder how they sleep at night.

One thing I have learned is that you must be aware of your rights when and if you are terminated... You must have a copy of your employer's handbook - You must keep all your pay-plan paperwork at your home. Commission break downs - letters of praise - anything that you feel is worthy of keeping - because if you are terminated you will NOT have a chance to recover those items... KEEP A SEPARATE FILE AT HOME


During this time, I discovered how much Dusty really needed me. I am a take charge kind of person in a crisis - and Dusty was in shock.. He temporarily lost his self esteem - he was bruised..... He was hurt... He was afraid... For the first time since college he was unemployed... He had a family to take care of... It's funny that I wasn't fearful.... I know God gave me a calm heart - at least I was not afraid.. I had to be a motivator for Dusty - I helped him with his resume - I got unemployment checks coming in - and I researched ways to get a job... Fast. Thankfully, Dusty was back to work within four (4) months - We were the lucky ones... But we also created our own luck by treating the job search as a job....

In today's economy there are more people looking for jobs than there are jobs. The people who are getting hired are the ones who are working the system.. They have contacted as many job sites as possible, they have gotten their resume updated and ready to go - many have hired companies to make them more attractive to potential employers, and they are calling every contact they have made in their entire working life... (This is how Dusty got his current position) If you want to work you must be proactive - you must spend your days making contacts with potential employers and letting friends, acquaintances, and family know you are looking and what you are looking for... Don't be shy - pass out your resume.... Being shy will not put food in your belly..

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Please be advised I am not an expert on getting a job - that is not my career. I am sharing information I learned from my experience.